Hi,

I've had Herpes (type 2) for about a year now, I caught it from my ex-girlfriend who I split up with some 5 months ago(for unrelated reasons).

Since then I've grown closer to a girl I know from back home. We've known each other for over 10 years and always had a bit of a thing for each other but nothing has happened until now.

We've been e-maling, texting and calling in a more romantic way a lot lately and she is due to visit me and my housemate in a few weeks (we both know her)

She is staying at mine with a friend of hers too so I dont think anything will happen sex wise but I can imagine something will start up between us.

To get to the point, she doesnt know i have herpes but i know i have to tell her pretty soon. I guess at the moment i feel "guilty" for leading her on romantically when i have such a bombshell.

Should i tell her now before the visit and risk her cancelling, and bringing up questions from my housemate who doesn't know about my herpes?

Should i tell her while she is at mine?I think this might be uncomfortable for all if it goes badly.The upside is this is the kind of thing that should be told to someone in person really.

Or,do i wait and see how the visit goes,obviously avoid any kind of sexual contact other than kissing,and talk to her after the visit?Im tempted by this but i may have to tell her over the phone(is this even acceptable?I dont know the etiquette for this,it's the first time ive had to deal with it!)

Your opinions would be most helpful. This has been driving me nuts and i need the advice of people who have been through it all before.

Thanks in advance

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